We have all heard that there is no road map for grief. So it can be a difficult and tricky course for many to navigate.
Each of us is like a snowflake. Unique. Just like our grief is unique and how we deal with our loss.
I remember one of my aunts, after losing her husband, telling me that she just kept herself busy, busy and busy. In hindsight she thinks maybe she kept herself too busy.
Another aunt was told to travel after the loss of her spouse. And she did. Accepted every invitation.
Just two examples among many.
Everyone takes a different course to find their way through grief and find their way back again. To discover their new normal.
Life is never the same when we lose a loved one. That is a fact.
The same aunt who was “too busy” wrote those exact words to me in a letter after my uncle Stiophan died.
“Life will never be the same.”
And it wasn’t. But that didn’t mean that life couldn’t be good for her again.
A friend, Donna B., had shared a website this morning on Facebook and I thought it was interesting. Shows another way of dealing with grief.
The owner of the website lost her mother, who was in her fifties, to early onset Alzheimer’s. Her aunt stepped in as surrogate mom but she, too, would soon fall victim to the same disease and be gone within a year.
Here is her website.
I thought I would share it with you. Who knows? Maybe it will help someone through the upcoming holidays. Or the next six months. The year.
There are also some tips and tools on the site designed to help those who are grieving. I particularly liked, “Be the Sherpa.”
Wishing peace and comfort to all of those who are suffering this holiday season. Now and in the new year.
Just Being Mary 