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Many times we read an obituary and we wonder about the cause of death. Sometimes the family will request donations to a particular organization. In lieu of flowers. That helps one suss out the cause of death. Well, not always. My father did not die because of food even though we requested donations to the Rhode Island Food Bank. Laugh out loud.

Other times it is just spelled right out for you. There was a recent obituary here in New England. There was absolutely no guessing about why this young fifteen year old died.

His family wrote an obituary that was just heart breaking.

Connor Francis Tronerud, 15, took his own life on Monday, December 4th, after struggling with bullying from peers. 

That was the beginning of an obituary for a child who was loved. This was an obituary that never should have been written. Never.

At home, Connor could most commonly be found “chillaxing” in his room with his iPad, Nintendo, and peanut butter cookies. He enjoyed going on hikes with his father; he looked to his mother for support as a confidant. He didn’t hesitate to ask his brother to borrow his credit card for online shopping. 

There is more, of course. Hard to sum up a person’s life in an obituary. So most folks usually stick to the facts rather than descriptions of personality and accomplishments.

He was an altar boy, had the highest GPA ever earned at his school and was a member of the National Junior Honor Society.

See Connor’s full obituary here.

This obituary captured the essence of Connor. For us. His family was sharing him with us. So we know that he was loved. That he was smart. That he was involved.

That this could happen to anyone. That bullying is real.

It’s not new. Behaviors are never really new. Ask a psychiatrist or a priest and they will tell you that they’ve heard it all. Nothing about human behavior is new.

But social media has opened the floodgates. And made it worse. Because there is no safe place. In order to recover or get assistance.

I read one comment from a man named Matt on the family’s fundraising page.

This saddens and frustrates me. I really don’t get the benefit of social media for teenagers. Most adults can’t even handle it responsibly. Kids like this, who probably already get picked on all day long during school hours, get sucked in to getting slammed on social media instead of discovering who and what in life motivates and fulfills them. No sure what the answer is.

I’m with that guy. I do not know the answer. But Connor’s family is raising money to fund bullying prevention. I sincerely hope that their efforts will assist young people and prevent another death. Maybe find an answer.

I honestly cannot imagine the family’s pain. Cannot. A nightmare of the worst kind.

This is their intro on the fund raising page.

Connor was a dynamic, witty, unforgettable young man. He was also an intensely private person. As he transitioned into adolescence, he struggled with peers invading that privacy in order to provoke a response . He had many spaces in which he felt safe and nurtured; others – including social media – proved overwhelming and harmful.   

No child should suffer marginalization; at the same time, the complexities of a “connected” world and its pathways to poor decisions can be difficult for adults and teens to navigate. As a result, the Tronerud family is committed to directing memorial resources towards funding for bullying prevention and self-harm awareness education in their area. The more we can equip peers, coaches, teachers, mentors, and friends to bolster those who are isolated, the more lives can be saved, and the sooner healing can begin. 

Thank you for offering your support to this worthy cause.

I wish you and your families a safe and secure place. Always continue to encourage kindness, compassion and caring in our children.

 

 

 

 

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More photos. You can see I have been on the go! This past week has been particularly busy but I still managed to squeeze in some of the fun stuff.

These were taken in Chinatown. In Kuala Lumpur. I tend to post the shots that I deem interesting. Or beautiful.

Chinatown is great. Vibrant and chaotic. There is certainly more to it than my photographs. Good and bad.

It does have its fair share of odors. That could make any garbage man blanch or take pause. And I am not talking about the smoky aroma of chestnuts roasting in their big machines on the corner! Cutting through some alleys I just tell folks, “Do not breathe and do not look the chickens directly in the eyes.”

It’s also not a place you want to lose a sandal or a flip-flop. Lots of moisture and whatnot on the ground.

I came home with bumps on my forearm. It has the appearance of a two (out of four) pronged TB Tine test reaction. Flea bites? It’s possible since I walked up three dark, dank flights of stairs in a building off the main drag. It was littered with bottles and butts. And those were the good pieces of litter. I was expecting a rat or two. All that for a secret hideaway of real leather purses. As opposed to the fake purses that are sold aplenty.

There is a lot going on and I do enjoy it from time to time. Here are the photos.

Main drag in Chinatown.

Main drag in Chinatown

Christmas Shop

Christmas Shop

So Colorful!

So Colorful!

'Tis the Season

‘Tis the Season

star

ball

Bead Shop

Bead Shop

Beads

Beads

A-Z

A-Z

Imagine how many words?

Imagine how many words?

In the shop

In the shop

Roses

Roses

Red, white and blue flowers

Red, white and blue flowers

Sunflowers

Sunflowers

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