Yesterday morning a neighbor flagged me down as I was driving. She wanted to talk to me. I pulled over to the side of the road.
She wanted to thank me. And tell me how much she appreciated me reaching out to her in the past. She said that my kindness came to her on occasions when she really and truly needed it. She had been wanting to tell me for a long time.
Timing is a funny thing.
The reason I write this is because I wasn’t feeling that great when I was driving past her. There is a lot going on here.
My mother-in-law who has been living with us for a year and a half is moving back to her war-torn country. I have been struggling with that. I understand that she wants to return home. Who wouldn’t? I am happy that she will be able to return to what is familiar to her. And I will find a new/old normal here. But I just wish that she was heading back into a stable environment.
My older daughter is traveling to do her senior thesis in an equally unstable environment.
Husband leaving for a business trip. Not unusual. Just that everyone will be scattered around the globe at the same time.
Oh, yeah, and I am the mother of a teenager.
So, this is life. This is the week. All of which I can and will deal with as best I can. While none offering an incredible sense of lightness. At the moment.
But I was also carrying something yesterday morning I don’t usually have and wasn’t sure what to do with it.
Anger. And not a misdirected anger. Doesn’t matter why or who. Just that the level of its intensity is unfamiliar to me. Of course, I have experienced small bouts of it in the past. I am, after all, like everyone else. A mere mortal. See above. I am married and a mother. I’m not talking about that.
Anyway, as I listened to this woman I felt a bit of lightness. Because for a few minutes I wasn’t thinking about myself. We all have our troubles.
And she talked about my timing. I didn’t know when I was reaching out to her that it was on days that she needed it the most.
I said maybe there was just something else (other worldly) at work here.
But what she doesn’t know is that her timing was also good for me. She didn’t know how I was feeling at that moment.
Her presence on the curb reminded me that we sometimes put things out there and it comes back somehow. When we least expect it. We don’t put positive, good things out there for the selfish boomerang effect but because it is right thing to do.
But it does ripple.
And sometimes those ripples hit you on a day when you need it most.
Timing is a funny thing.