Some Hollywood “news” popped up on my computer screen today as I logged into my email. It was a short piece on Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s marriage. They are American actors. I am sure they are great folks but the article was about their lasting marriage in tainted old Tinseltown. And what they are doing right to make it last so long.
I laughed because it finally mentioned their years of wedded bliss.
They have been married for a whopping seven years!!! I might have dated a guy longer than that. All I am thinking during my skimming of the article is this, “I wouldn’t pop the champagne just yet!”
Not that I hope that their union will fail. I don’t. I wish success for all wedded couples. But seven years? That’s just in time for the itch.
Should they be a role model for me? Or anyone?
Forget about the length of the marriage for a minute. Should any of us (whether celebrities, politicians or everyday folk) be thrust out there as examples of what constitutes a strong, healthy and lasting marriage? And what makes it work?
No one’s marriage is perfect. Not mine. Although it appears to be working for us I would never want the relationship held up as an example of how it should be done. And not just because I am superstitious.
But because staying together, raising a family and daily life takes a lot of effort. For most everyone. And what works for one relationship does not necessarily work for another. So why put additional pressure on anyone to model their marriage?
That’s just my thought.
So, here’s to Ben and Jennifer. Many more happy years together! No pressure. Don’t need to know your secrets to a lasting marriage. I just need to know how Jennifer looks so great without makeup.